Mon AMI: The Combative or Adversarial Stance

Be HOT on the ISSUE BUT Not on The Person

Anger Management In Islam 

(AMI)

by Omar K Neusser
http://www.livingislam.org/m/ami_e.html

To start with ask yourself the following questions:

a. Do I become angry when things are not going MY way?
b. Does it make ME angry when something happens contrary to what I expected or what I wished for?
c. When starting to get angry, did I ever become aware of how MY emotions are kindled or heating up?
c. When I am angry, do I say or do things which normally I would not?
d. When I am angry, do I feel I have to act in a certain manner, without any control?
e. Do I - after MY anger has subsided - regret what I said or did, or how I appeared in front of people?

1.) Definition of anger or temper:

Lexical[1] meaning:

The feeling one has toward something or someone that hurts, opposes, offends, or annoys, strong displeasure.
(Example: In a moment of anger I hit my brother.)

Islamic definition: It is a destructive fire!
Prophetic hadith: “Anger is a burning coal ...” [3]

- Anger is a secret weapon of man towards of evils, but sometimes
it results in the destruction of many noble qualities.
- It snatches away the wisdom of man and thus
he becomes a brute beast devoid of  any sense.
- Anger is a temptation and deception of Shaitân.[2]
- Anger is the root of all evils.
- Anger is a very bad condition that weakens the person's Imân (faith). [2]

Several Cures for Anger from the Sunnah

1. To say "Audhu billahi minashaytan nirajim." [Bukhari, Muslim]

2. If he is standing, then he should sit. If the anger fails to subside, then he should lie down. [Abu Dawood]

3. A person should remain silent. [Imam Ahmad]

4. Make wudhu. [Abu Dawood]

5. Make ghusl [Abu Nuaim]

(Summary of 'Jami'ul Uloom waal Hikam fi sharhi khamsina haditham min jawa mi'il kaleem' by ibn Rajab)

Imam Mawlûd calls it a "swelling ocean," that is he compares it to "a swelling mass of emotion that is difficult to hold back once it is unleashed."[4]

"a swelling ocean or a mass of emotion that is difficult to hold back once it is unleashed."

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2.) Introduction

The Messenger of Allah, Prophet Muhammad said:

"Whoever curbs his anger, while being able to act, Allah will fill his heart with certainty of faith."
Therefore the consequence for whoever does not curb his anger is that he or she will sooner or later feel its evil consequences. Anger is a destructive emotion, as a fire which destroys our well-being, consumes our good actions, repels our friends and dear ones, frightens our children and forces the angels to report bad actions for the Heavenly Records. This is a dangerous rough road and no-one is devoid of it and it brings one close to the wrath of Allah; story:

Prophet `Isa (Jesus Christ) -peace be upon him- was once asked:
"What thing is difficult?" He said: "God's wrath." Prophet Yahya (John the Baptist) -peace be upon him- then asked:
"What brings near the wrath of God?" He said: "Anger".
Yahya - peace be upon him- asked him:
"What thing grows and increases anger?" Isa -peace be upon him- said:
"Pride, prestige, hope for honour and haughtiness." [5]

The good news is that when you are ready to confront the evil kind of anger within your soul, then you have already taken the first decisive step in fighting it. The evil kind of anger can be overcome by understanding and following the respective teachings of Islam. If you are not ready, ask yourself the test questions below.[ch.4]

3.) Clarification

Are all kinds of anger meant here always, or are there instances when anger could still be justified?
Someone could say: "How do I know that my anger is not justified, when I feel strongly about it, that in certain situations I do have the right to become angry?" (As an exception there are a few instances when it is good and allowed, such as in war when fighting the enemy, but not excessive anger.)
Answer: Yes, there are situations where anger is justified and lawful, as "in cases of religious affairs when one's honour is at stake. It is an effective preventive measure to safeguard the dignity of man.  A person who has no anger is called a coward because he has got no true faith in Allah.  The person fears creation and not the Creator." [2]
But certainly those instances are rare, and what is worse, for a beginner in anger management (AMI) it is difficult to distinguish between those situations from the outset. Later with some success in AMI, that will be easy.
We do not suggest that AMI means you never may get angry, for anger is not to abolished but channelled, and the aim is always to reach your goal with other, reliable and sane methods, in shâh Allah. But to begin with, it is vital to bring it down to lower levels, to temper it, in order to take control over it.

For the time being you should be extremely suspicious about anger in which form or situation what-so-ever. Be warned against it!

Remember that the real strength of a man lies in controlling his wrath or anger. In this respect the Islamic tradition is very clear:

It is reported in a hadith on the authority of Abu Huraira    Allah be pleased with him, that Mohammad, the emissary of Allah peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said :
"The man is not a good wrestler; the strong man is in fact the person who controls himself at the time of anger." (Bukhari)
In another hadith Abu Hurairah    (radiyallahu `anhu), reported that a man said to the Prophet (sallallahu `alayhi wasallam): "Advise me!"
The Prophet said, "Do not become angry and furious."
The man asked (the same) again and again, and the Prophet said in each case, "Do not become angry and furious."
[Al-Bukhari; Vol. 8 No. 137] (see hadith in Arabic at top of page.)
Commenting on this hadith Al-Nawawî says that "he meant to not allow anger to lord over oneself and cause the loss of one's comportment." Instead to control your anger and never lose control. [11]

4.) Try To Get The Whole Picture - The Causes Of Anger

We are convinced that the Islamic guidance is the best guidance, also in respect of AMI, because it relates to all levels of human beings, where it operates its barakah (Divine blessings): the body (jism), the soul (nafs) and the spirit (rûh), the last being the highest element which governs the rest. Anger is one of several coarse qualities of the soul or heart, which have to be treated by Islam's spiritual methods. To treat the (spiritual) desease you have to know its causes. Imam al Ghazali explains them as follows:

The causes which cause anger to grow are self-conceit, self-praise, jests and ridicule, argument, treachery, too much greed for too much wealth and name and fame. If these evils are united in a person, his conduct becomes bad and he cannot escape anger. So these things should be removed by their opposites. Self-praise is to be removed by modesty. Pride is to be removed by one's own origin and birth, greed is to be removed by remaining satisfied with necessary things, and miserliness by charity.[5]

Or summarized in four words:

"Pride, prestige, hope for honour and haughtiness."[5]

The goal is to purify the heart, free it from oblivion of the rang of human beings, neglect of Allahs commands, and ... so as to reach the Divine Presence.
In this context there is the Gabriel-hadith on excellence (ihsân) in Islam (as part of a longer hadith[13]): A man asked the Emissary of Allah : "Then tell me about Ihsan." He said:
"It is to worship Allah as though you are seeing Him,
and while you see Him not yet — truly He sees you."
Also in the Quran we are constantly reminded that Allah sees and hears us, thus watching over us all the time. Knowing this how can anyone be so carried away by his (her) passions – and devoid of godfearingness (taqwâ) to behave like an ugly, crazy person, chasing around and abusing people?

It becomes clear then that in reality anger is a secret disease, like for example alcoholism, which has to be treated just like any other desease, and it is you yourself who has to take the decisive step to curb it, with Allah's help.
In this context it is important to remember that AMI is part of a comprehensive treatment of the heart, not isolated methods.
Therefore come to terms with yourself (nafs) and see your propensity toward the anger-syndrome!

To start with ask yourself the following questions:

a. Do you become angry when things are not going your way?
b. Does it make you angry when something happens contrary to what you expected or what you wished for?
c. When starting to get angry, did you ever become aware of how your emotions are kindled or heating up?
c. When you are angry, do you say or do things which normally you would not?
d. When you are angry, do you feel you have to act in a certain manner, without any control?
e. Do you - after your anger has subsided - regret what you said or did, or how you appeared in front of people?

If you answered most or all of the above questions with 'yes', then you are on your way and you will easily understand the following diagrams which show the anger levels and how to curb it over time (ch.5) :

You may ask if there is anything which can be done about this problem of losing one's temper, and you may think that this is the way you are, this is your character and that a change would be impossible. But you can change and
AMI was conceived to show how to succeed in dealing with this desease, once its evil roots have been understood. Then, soon, you will enjoy the sweet fruit of having overcome it. Someone[18] said in this respect, that winning over his anger is a sweet thing indeed.

5.) The Islamic Model Of Anger Management (AMI)

A visual model is employed for the description of anger over time:
Here we can see a line graph (red) for the fairly common development of temper or anger, where the left, vertical axis with variable h, measures the degree of temper [ º ] and the horizontal axis measuring time in minutes [min].

graph - d1:

t1: Around t1 the level of emotion is quite normal, it is close to
the "normality-level" n1, but something happened at "t2"
t2: from here there is a steep increase in anger-level. Not long
after temper reaches its peak at "t3"
t3: anger-level stays at that extreme level for a moment or
some minute or so, then after this
t4: anger level is reduced, either more rapidly as in
L1 or more slowly with others individuals as shown in L2.

The critical timespan to employ AMI is at the outset of anger at t2, and as soon as possible, this is shown in graph d2 below[graph d2]. But anytime is better than no time!


a) There are two cures, the first is the cure at the beginning of tension build-up, see graph d2:
The critical area to address AMI is at the outset of anger at t2 when angel level has risen somewhat to n2 (blue line), ie. one has become angry and irritated, but still not "lost one's temper" completely.
AMI has to intervene here as soon as possible, as shown in line graph d2 below.

graph - d2:

This diagram reflects a very positiv situation, in which anger level has not been allowed to rise beyond a modest "start" at t2, instead it has been stopped completely at n2 (blue line). This is the case of a person who is able to remind him-/herself at this critical moment (t2) of his standing in front of Allah (swt), and that he will have to answer Him at That Day Of Balance for everything he has done and neglected to do, or what he said.

If this method (AMI) can be employed, it will be of great help for the time being and it will save him (or her) from the evil consequences of his temper. If he still needs more assistance - and most of us do need it dearly - check for m1 - m3 below. [ in chapter b) ].
The person with such a positive reponse to anger, which we know is but the incitement of Shaitan (rajîm), can only succeed enforcing this strong kind of control if he earlier has disciplined his nafs by those many spiritual methods which are prescribed by the Islamic tradition, the obligatory, (wâjib) and the strongly recommend (the Sunnah).


b) The second cure curbing the tension of temper-build-up altogether is described in graph d3:

With given, innate levels of passion and emotion the response to anger will vary from person to person, and also from young age to mature age. Other factors also determine levels of tension generally, such as the person's living and working conditions, etc.

For some persons it may not be possible to prevent a strong, swelling attack of anger at the outset (as described in d2) because of the above reasons, and it is very difficult especially when he /she has not internalized the islamic viewpoint [see ch. 8] that whatever happens it is because Allah (swt) has allowed it to happen. Therefore they are in dire need of implementing the three most important islamic methods of anger management:

graph - d3:

Diagram d3 reflects a person's anger level as it rises beyond t2 to t2b (the first blue line to the left) expecting to rise to a very high level (as described above in graph - d1). Here there is very little time to stop the process, the longer one is inactive not calling upon Allah (swt) the harder it will be to stop it. When the person realizes that he is without power to counter this satanic attack, he should seek refuge with Allah Almighty and utter the words of protection. (see chapters 6 & 7b). This is the first method of AMI (m1). If he needs more input and he probably will, he should use method2 (m2) and method3 (m3). There is no way he cannot to succeed in this if he is sincere.

6.) Three Instant Methods of Anger Management

These methods go hand in hand with recognizing one's position in the sight of Allah (swt), as summarized in chapter 8.

Here we'll encourage the reader to enact the prophetic advice of anger management in his own life, and to the benefit of himself and his spiritual capability, and for the peace of his familiy and everyone else:
(m1) saying the word of protection:
a`ûdhû billâhi min ash-shaytân ir rajîm
(m2) changing bodily posture:
when angry, sit down if standing — and lie down if sitting.
(m3) washing the face etc, arms, hands:
make ablution with water. (see ch. 7b)

7. Medicines recommended by Imam Al-Ghazalî   

We are describing below the medicines of anger after one gets angry. This medicine is a mixture of knowledge and action.

7a. The medicine based on knowledge is of six kinds:
(1) The first medicine of knowledge is to think over the rewards of appeasing anger, that have come from the verses of the Quran and the sayings of the Prophet . Your hope for getting rewards of appeasing anger will restrain you from taking revenge.
(2) The second kind of medicine based on knowledge is to fear the punishment of God and to think that the punishment of God upon me is greater than my punishment upon him. If I take revenge upon this man for anger, God will take revenge upon me on the Judgement Day.
(3) The third kind of medicine of anger based on knowledge is to take precaution about punishment of enemity and revenge on himself. You feel joy in having your enemy in your presence in his sorrows, You yourself are not free from that danger. You will fear that your enemy might take revenge against you in this world and in the next.
(4) Another kind of medicine based on knowledge is to think about the ugly face of the angry man, which is just like that of the ferocious beast. He who appeases anger looks like a sober and learned man.
(5) The fifth kind of medicine based on knowledge is to think that the devil will advise by saying: " You will be weak if you do not get angry!" Do not listen to him!
(6) The sixth reason is to think: " What reason have I got to get angry? What Allah wishes has occured!"

7b. The medicine based on action is of three kinds:
(m1) When you get angry, say: I seek refuge in God from the accursed evil (a`ûdhû billâhi min ash-shaytân ir rajîm). The Prophet ordered us to say thus.
When Ayesha (ra) got angry, he dragged her by the nose and said:
"O dear Ayesha, say: O God, you are the Lord of my prophet Muhammad, forgive my sins and remove the anger from my heart and save me from misguidance."
(m2) If anger does not go away by this means, you will sit down if you are standing, lie down if you are sitting, and come near to earth, as you have been created of earth. Thus make yourself calm like the earth. The cause of wrath is heat and its opposite is to lie down on the ground and to make the body calm and cool.
The Prophet said: Anger is a burning coal. Don't you see your eyebrows wide and eyes reddish? So when one of you feels angry, let him sit down if standing, and lie down if sitting.
(m3) If still anger does not stop, make ablution with cold water or take a bath, as fire cannot be extinguished without water.
The Prophet said : "When one of you gets angry, let him make ablution with water as anger arises out of fire."
In another narration, he said: "Anger comes from the devil and the devil is made of fire." [5]

8.) Summary

AMI has to do with keeping the right balance in one's life, regarding various aspects of it, such as foodintake, sexuality, desire for position and power, and so on. Prophet Muhammad was the best human being to keep to this balance and to be a guide of the middle way sirât-al mustaqîm, the way of moderation. Man has to balance between wrath ghadab and mercy rahma, never losing sight of the religious priority of mercy over wrath or anger. [22]

For these methods or ways to become reality one has to come to forbearance and humility in all cases. This is especially clear when the issue is not to uphold the dîn (religion) of Islam, but the problem is from our expectations of the dunya or of other people. And if the defense of Islam is at stake, one must still not rush towards action under the pressure of anger, but one has to excuse oneself, first calm down and stick to what Imam Al-Ghazalî's advised the Muslims [12], who stated that anger "is acceptable only a the right time, in the right place, for the right reasons, and with the right intensity." [23]
When one has internalized the islamic viewpoint that whatever happens is because Allah (swt) has allowed it to happen and then also by knowing oneself, one can strive to rid oneself from selfcenteredness and egotism, for in the words of S. Ahmad Zarrûq, "people are filled with themselves". With the help of Allah, one will be able to let go of what ultimately is beyond our restriced, illusory domain of power, and arrive step-by-step at a control of one's anger by understanding the rule of "the right time, in the right place, for the right reasons, and with the right intensity." With the whole effectiveness and barakah (heavenly powers) of the Islamic way - living Islam -, one will by Allah's leave (bi-idhni-LLah) win over this nafs ( an-nafs al-ammara bi-ssu' ) [26] - this soul commanding us to do evil - and taste the sweet taste of victory over one's worst enemy.

To become aware of oneself is a step towards knowing oneself, and according to a famous saying in Islam, whoever knows himself he knows his Lord. [27]

9.) Story Of `Ali (kAw)* Not Acting On Anger

There is a famous story about `Ali (karrama-llâhu wajhahu) according to which he was fighting against a disbeliever and had the intention of killing him due to al bughd fi Allah (hatred for the sake of Allah). After `Ali (karrama-llâhu wajhahu) subdued him and sat on his chest with the intention of killing him, the man spat on his face. `Ali (karrama-llâhu wajhahu) at once let him go.
The man was amazed and said, "You should have become even more angry due to my spitting at you and should have hastened in killing me. Why did you spare me?"
`Ali (karrama-llâhu wajhahu) replied, "Due to this action of yours my nafs became involved and my intention did not remain purely for the sake of Allah."
The light of sincerity had such a cleansing effect that it purged the impurities and kufr of the disbeliever's heart, and he recited the kalima (profession of faith) at once, and became Muslim. [28]

10.) Speech on Anger And Hatred, by Shaykh J. Brown

audio

11.) Excerpt: Chapter Anger, by Sh Masihullah Khan*

Allah Most High says:
{ And those who swallow anger and those who forgive people, Allah loves the righteous } (Quran 3:134).
The Messenger of Allah Allah bless him and give him peace) said:
Do not become angry (Bukhari).
and
A strong man is not one who defeats (another) in physical combat. Verily, a strong man is he who controls his self at the time of anger (Bukhari Muslim).
In another narration it is said that a strong man is he who controls anger. It is essential to keep anger under control. One should never act spontaneously in accordance with the dictates of anger. On the contrary, anger should be made subservient to the commands of the Shariah. It is natural to be aroused in the state of anger. Such natural propensity is not blameworthy (in itself). But Allah Most High has endowed man with willpower. Anger has therefore to be controlled since it is within the scope of man's willpower to do so. Failure to exercise this volitional power is contrary to human nature.
There are many reasons for the inclusion of anger in the natural attributes of man. Along with the quality of anger, Allah Most High has endowed man with the ability to control such anger to ensure that it is not misdirected and unjustly employed. Anger in itself arises involuntarily. It is automatically activated. But acting in accordance with its demand is voluntary; hence, refraining from it is likewise voluntary. The remedy for a non-volitional act (the way of curbing it) is nothing other than the exercise of one's willpower in order to bring about restraint and control...
... [29]

Notes:

* (kAw): karram-Allahu wajhahu: May Allah ennoble his face! 1 from: MacKiev's World Book
2 Anger and Islam < islamawareness.net >
3 hadith in chapter 7
4 a swelling mass of emotion: PHM**
5 The Causes of Anger and It's Medicine,
by Imam al Ghazali < jannah.org >
11 Instead to control your anger and never lose control. [fn 103] PHM103
13 Gabriel-hadith: < mac.abc.se/home/onesr/ez/hdth >
18 There is a saying of Imam `Ali (kAw) in this respect, which we were
unable to trace. Another one of his sayings is < here >.
22 PHM107
23 PHM105
26 see: The Meaning of Nafs by Muhammad 'Afifi al-'Akiti < nafs.html >
27 a famous saying: < khkr_e.html >
28 chapter 9 is from: < muslim-canada.org >
29 This is the first part of the chapter on anger; The Path to Perfection, Sh Masihullah Khan; PTP59/60

** PHM: Purification of the Heart; Signs, Symptoms and Cures of the Spiritual Diseases of The Heart, Transl. and Comm. of Imam al-Mawlud's Matharat al-Qulub, by Hamza Yusuf; Starlatch Press 2004

see also: Anger and Dejection - An Islamic Perspective,
by Dr. Shahid Athar, Medicine for Anger < islam-usa.com >

ANGER MANAGEMENT, by Ibrahim B. Syed, Ph. D. < irfi.org >

Anger Management: An Islamic perspective < Anger >

Anger Management: An Islamic perspective < Cures for Anger from the Sunnah >

The Path to Perfection, Sh Masihullah Khan; chapter on anger

To Neutralize or Equalize

WHAT IS ANGER?

 

"I  SEEK REFUGE IN ALLAH FROM SATAN THE OUTCAST."

Anger is a secret weapon of man towards of evils but sometimes its result’s in the destruction of many noble qualities. It snatches away the wisdom of man and thus he becomes a brute beast devoid of  any sense.
Anger is a temptation of shaytaan and deception of shaytaan
Anger is the root of all evils.
Anger is a spark of fire that are always bursting.
Anger is a very bad condition that weakens the person Iman (FAITH)
The meaning of anger is a rage fierce, displeasure, passion excited by a sense of wrong , physical pain, inflammation, mad, hot tempered, choleric, inflamed, A violent passion excited by real or supposed injury.
Anger is the strong feeling caused by extreme displeasure.
Anger is a strong feeling of annoyance, displeasure and hostility.

in Islam extreme anger is unlawful

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ANGER AND WRATH.
When someone is angry, mad, and reaches a state of having wrath against any person, he should make a special Du'a. In doing so he will cool down . It is reported that the Messenger of Allah    said ( narrated by Sulaiman Ibn Sard and reported by Bukhari and Muslim ) that while Sulaiman was  with the Prophet ( ), two persons were blaming each other. The face of one became red and his jugular veins swelled. the Prophet ( ) said. I know a statement if he or she say's it then the person with anger will cool down.
The person with anger  should say :  "I  SEEK REFUGE IN ALLAH FROM SATAN THE OUTCAST."
IS ANGER LAWFUL OR NOT ?
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Anger is lawful in cases of religious affair's when its honours are at stake. It is an effective preventive measure to safeguard the dignity of man.  A person who has no anger is called a coward because he has got no true faith in Allah.  The person fears the creation and not the creator. This doesn't give the right for youngsters to become angry with parents when they don't get what they want.
If a person doesn't practice Islam, a person disobeys the command of Allah or a person doesn't listen to his parents then to become angry with such a person can be lawful.   But the person shouldn't become too angry because in Islam extreme anger is unlawful because it creates opposition and bitterness.
It is undesirable for a pious man to lose his temper, due to jokes, frivolous talks, quarrels, criticism and greed for wealth.
The real strength of a man lies in controlling his wrath. i.e. Anger.
It is reported in a Hadith on the authority of Abu Huraira (Allah be pleased with him) that the messenger of Allah (Mohammed ( ) Peace and blessing of Allah be upon him said :

 "The man is not a good wrestler; the strong man is in fact the person who controls himself at the time of anger." the above Hadith is stated in Bukhari.
Anger is unlawful because it destroys the faith of a man. Bah bin hakim (Allah be please with him) Reported that the messenger of Allah  (peace and blessing of Allah be upon him) . Said: Verily anger spoil's faith just as aloes spoils honey .
It is stated in Bukhari.:
" A person should be cautious from being angry." Back It has been narrated by Abu Huraira (May Allah be pleased with him) That Allah's  Messenger Muhammad ( ) Said:

 “ The strong is not the one who over comes the people by his strength”
"But the strong is the one who controls him while in anger." In another narration by Abu Huraira (May Allah be pleased with him man said to the Prophet Muhammad ( ) Advise me.
The Prophet Muhammad (). Said :

" Do not become angry  “ The man asked the same question again and again and the Prophet Muhammad () Replied by in case by saying:

 “ Do not become angry and furious” Back By looking from the advise given by our beloved Prophet Muhammad () we shouldn't become anger and furious. If we remember the advise and saying of our beloved Prophet Muhammad (  )then the person becoming angry will control his anger.
    But the youngster today have forgotten the teaching of our Prophet Muhammad  () there  become angry  and furious for small reason like if their parent tell them to do something which their donut like there say to the parent in anger that I donut what to do it like cleaning  the house or the toilet. So the best person is one who controls him self in anger.
Hadrat Anas: (Allah be pleased with him) reported that the messenger of Allah ( Muhammad( )  said:
 Who so takes up his tongue as treasure Allah will keep his secrets concealed  and who so restrains his anger Allah will with hold his punishment on the resurrection day and who so ascribes excuse to Allah will accept his excuse.
So by reading this we should refrain from becoming  anger. Because anger destroys one faith. The person in anger forgets where he is and says anything which he regrets after.
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 Today people are becoming angry because of the lifestyle and the society we live in. When a person is under stress he or she tends to become angry because the jobs not done or their  children donut listen  to them. There become angry  and the  anger is taken out on the child.
When a person becomes angry to their parent then that mean he's angry  with Allah Paradise lies between your parent . If you treat them and help them then Allah will reward you in this world and the hereafter. But if you displeased your parent
this  means you are displeasing Allah then the person will be deprived from Allah's mercy. and the person will get punish in the hereafter.
The aim and objective of reading this is to practice what has been written and refine from becoming angry. To become angry for Islamic reason is permissible but it shouldn't cause anyone harm.
Women should control their anger. because anger effects everyone. So anger is lawful for islamic reason and if ones hourner is at risk's.Other then this Anger is not permissible.
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AT THE TIME OF ANGER
As humans beings, we have our our emotions. We react in either positive or negative emotions. Sometimes we may lose our logic and we cannot control our emotions. Hence, we behave in a strange way.
For those who lose control of their emotions and react negatively they have to be advised in advance what to do in such  a situation. Our beloved Prophet () gave us a prescription that makes us control our negative behavior. By using it, we will not show our anger and madness . Our blood pressure will stay normal. All what it takes is that a person has to read the following statement at the time of anger and wrath.:
                         " I  SEEK REFUGE IN ALLAH FROM THE OUTCAST SHAITAN "
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From a personal experience, dealing with children fighting one another and with family counselling, this prescription has worked beautifully. I enencourage that we recite it loudly for at least three times at the time of anger . Allah will send special angels to protect us from the mischievous Shaitan. Remember what Allah said in Surah Fussilat
              ( This surah is in the 24th parah Ayat 36 in the holy Qur'ran ) the meaning is  below ( Ayah 36):
         " AND IF AN EVIL WHISPER FROM SHAITAN ( SATAN) TRIES TO TURN YOU AWAY ( OH MUHAMMAD() ( FROM DOING GOOD ), THEN SEEK REFUGE IN ALLAH. VERILY, HE IS THE        ALL-HEARER, THE ALL- KNOWER "
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So the best person is one who controls him self in anger.
 When a person is angry he should make wudu (Ablution ) ) and then he should recite the verses from the Holy Qur'ran  the anger should have gone away. The person should prey Taw'waz (aeo zo billahi mnashayta nirazam) and then prey ( Ayatul kursi) which is in the Holy Qur'ran . ( 3rd para 2nd ruku  )
Every person male or female should try to recite the Holy Qur'ran everyday because by reciting the Holy Qur'ran it takes away the anger and the heart will become clean.
Anger effects everyone it doesn't matter if the person is young, old, male, and female. So one should try to control one’s anger. There is a great reward given to the person who controls his anger.
May Allah give eveyone  the abilty to practices upon the Qur'ran and the way shown by our Prophet Muhammad ().
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SAYING OF PROPHET MUHAMMAD ( ) ABOUT ANGER.
Allah's Messenger ( )Said  a Muslim is never allowed to stay angry with his Muslim brother over three day's , because he who does that, then dies will go to hell ( FIRE ) . ( This is reported by Abu Dawood )  (Sahih Al - Jami ) ( page 7609).
The messenger of Allah (Prophet Muhammad ( says about anger:
“ Anger is the effect of shaytaan and shaytaan was created from fire. And water extinguishes fire."
It is narrated in Bukhari that two people were arguing in the presence of Rasulullah ( ) One of the two became so angry that his face went red and his veins swelled.  Rasulullah ()  Lifted his face towards that person and said to him that I know a sentence if you were to say it your anger will go away. The sentence is ( taw’wz ). The translation is as follows:
                       “ I SEEK ALLAH'S PROTECTION FROM THE CURSED DEVIL"
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THE VIRTUES OF CONTROLLING ONES ANGER.
There are many virtues in Ahadeeth recarding a person who controls his anger. In Tabraani . ( A book of Hadeeth ). It is narrated that Rasulullah ( ) Said : Who ever controls there temper Allah will take away punishment from him and who so ever safe guard's his tongue Allah will conceal his sins.
In another Hadeeth which is narrated in  (Tirmizi and Abu Dawood): Rasulullah() Who ever controls their temper in a state that if he wanted he could have took revenge. Then On the day of judgement Allah will call him in front of everyone and will give him the choice of picking the Hoor of his choice.  So by controlling your anger Allah will give the choice of picking any Hoor from  Paradise (Jannat). But today youngsters have forgotten the world hear after and there are to indulge in this world that we have forgotten the command of Allah and the way shown by our beloved Prophet Muhammad () so from now on we should change our lifestyle. And we should live our life according to the way shown by our beloved Prophet
Muhammad (). because success in this world and the hereafter lies in the command of Allah and the way shown by our beloved Prophet Muhammad.(). May Allah gives us the ability to practice upon this ( Aamin ).
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THE REMEDY FOR ANGER SHOWN BY OUR PROPHET MUHAMMAD ()
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The remedy for anger is that when a person who is angry should control his anger . In the Ahadith there are three way's shown to control ones Anger. 1). is to say Ta'awwuz
                                   2). is to doWudu (Abulution ) or drink water.
                                   3). is to lie down on the floor
So when a person becomes angry he should perform ablution. Then the person should lie down because when a person is lying he becomes humble because this is the quality of the earth due to it being low and not bursting. This is the opposite to fire which is the origin of shaytaan which results to pride. When a person is lying down he is far from revenge and retaliation then a person who is sitting is further then the one who is standing.
In reality anger is a spark of fire and its flames are always bursting. The cure is that you extinguish                           Back
The fire with water so that the evilness doesn't spread. i.e. by water it means to make wudu(Ablution).
The person who is angry should make wudu.then the person should recite the verses from the Holy Qur'ran which is (AYAH KURSI ) which is in the (3rd para, 2nd ruku). by reciting the Holy Qur'ran the person with anger it will cool him down because Anger is from shaytaan.
The person who is angry should be left alone to cool down and the above remedy should be practice's.The anger should go away.
In the state of anger one should use the above mentioned remedy so that he doesn't regret later.
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CONCLUSION
Today I have written about anger and if anger is permissible or not. Anger is only permissible for Islamic reason other then that anger is not permissible. Anger effects everyone weather Young old male or female.Our beloved Prophet Muhammad () has shown us a way to control ones anger so when someone is angry he should follow the three way's shown in the Hadith.
The three way's shown in the ahaadith  to control you temper and anger.is the following.:
NUMBER ONE : (1) To say ta'awuz.
NUMBER TWO : (2) To do wudu or drink water.
NUMBER THREE : (3) To lie down on the floor.                                                                                    Back
The above is the remedy for anger. Its like a person  is ill he takes medicine to get better . Like this when a person is angry he or she should take the medicine givin by our Prophet Muhammad ( ) . May Allah give every person the ability to practice's upon this . ( Aamin).
Whosoever adopts these three qualities in his life Allah will shower his mercy upon him .
1) Who thanks Allah for all his favour's.
2) When he has the strength to to forgive he forgives.
3) when he gets Angry he stay's quite and calms down.
So by looking at the Hadith's mention above we could see that the effect of being anger is a bad thing the person is deprived of many benefits in this world and the hear after
Just by controlling your anger Allah will give the person the pleasure of picking a hoor from Jannat. (Paradise)
Anger is a very bad condition it destroy the person Iman (FAITH)
Anger is a cause of temptation and deception of shaytaan so every person should not show
Anger to anyone. There's more harm in becoming angry and not controlling the anger.
A person control his anger Allah will give him a choice of any Hoor from Jannet (paradise).
This is the reward given by Allah to the person who control his anger so may Allah give everyone the ability to control our anger and save us from this satanic effects.
May Allah forgive our sin’s and give everyone the ability to practice Islam and the straight path
The path shown by our prophet Muhammad.()

Whosoever ALLAH Guides No One Can Misguide Him

Whosoever ALLAH Guides No One Can Misguide Him

Allahumma innee a'oodhu bika an adil aw udal, aw azil aw uzal, aw azlima aw uslam, aw ajhal aw yujhal 'aliiyy.... Ameen Ya Rabb

Thriving in Mud, Yet Untainted

Like the Lotus Flower in its Pristine State as amongst the infinite Proofs....Such is the Glorious Munificence of the Supreme Creator, ALLAH Subhanallaahi wa bihamdihi! 

Indeed, no toxic contaminants can blemish or defile  a pure HEART :)

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Two women hold their children killed during the passage of tropical storm Sendong at a village in Iligan City on Saturday.  Nearly 600 are feared dead after Sendong unleashed mammoth floods that affected the provinces of Iligan and Cagayan De Oro.

The LEASE of LIFE

Abdullah bin Masood reported that the Prophet once drew a square and a line in the middle of the square, which extended outside the square. He then drew some lines on both sides of the middle line. He then asked whether they knew what it was. The companions replied that only God and His Messenger knew best.

He then explained to them that the square represented the lease of life, the middle line a human being and the sidelines on both its sides were the calamities and diseases, which continuously tear him/her apart. If one calamity missed him another one befell him. The line outside the square was hope. (Bukhari, 1971, Vol.8, Hadith No.426, p.285)

DEFENSE OF MUSLIMAT FORTRESS: NO DEARTH OF LAWS, ONLY DEATH

DEFENSE OF MUSLIMAT FORTRESS: NO DEARTH OF LAWS, ONLY DEATH

By: Neocatalyst

“There is no dearth of laws, but there is death of laws,” commented Warina Sushil A. Jukuy, Coordinator for Philippine Alliance of Human Rights Advocates (PAHRA-WESMIN). She said that there is no dearth of laws, memoranda, issuances, department orders and yet disrespect for the right to wear hijab as a sign of piety prevails. I personally resonate with her observation that strict compliance of hijab legal guidance is actually met with outright defiance by personnel of the very agencies that issued them. Could this non-compliance be due to unprofessionalism, discrimination or mere ignorance?

Recent reported cases of disallowing the right to hijab are happening not only in hospitals, schools, universities, colleges, but are also either fully violated (mandatory removal of hijab) or partially violated (requiring ears exposure) as photo requirements in government agencies such as the Civil Service Commission (CSC), National Bureau of Investigation (NBI) and Department of Foreign Affairs (DFA). Ms Jukuy said that the most appalling case of hijab transgression is the latest denouncement by concerned Filipino Muslims of what is transpiring in Doha, Qatar. Allegedly, undisclosed source bewailed that "Muslim women are not only asked by a male NBI Personnel to expose their ears, but they are FORCED to remove all head cover in the supposedly required NBI Photograph thereby exposing their hairs, faces and necks. This same male NBI personnel working in the Philippine Embassy in Doha is also the one who 'guides' the thumb marking part where he holds the Muslim Women hands and fingers saying that this needs to be done to ensure proper thumb marking, though this can be easily solved by having a female staff for the 'guiding' the process." In addition, recurring violations on hijab-niqab still persist in some Universities, Colleges, Health Care Institutions, and agencies. I wonder why other agencies are still ignorant about the existing laws about hijab when in fact as government agencies “they are duty-bound to know the policies on hijab-niqab so as to protect the rights of the veiled Muslimat and ultimately exercise their right to education as well as right to freedom of religion in legal conformity with their dignity and substantive rights duly protected not only by Divine Law but also by the Philippine Constitution including the Universal Declarations of Human Rights amongst United Nations.”

Nonetheless, PAHRA-WESMIN Coordinator asserted that the NBI Memo 28 series of 2008 by its director Atty. Nestor M. Mantaring is the most fulfilling in terms of providing relief to the undue vexation experienced by NBI clearance Muslim lady applicants in the process of photo-taking; although most of us understandably are still unaware of it but it is unforgivable for NBI personnel to be oblivious to it. Item 3 of said memo states to wit:

xxx“…3. Use of head scarf for religious and medical reasons is allowed, (i.e. Muslim women, nuns, cancer patients with hair loss/alopecia). However, the scarf should not cover any portion of the face of the applicant. As much as possible, both ears of the applicant should be visible. It is acceptable if the ears of a Muslim woman-applicant or of applicants who is a member of Religious Order (nuns), ARE NOT visible on the photograph…”xxx

“The hijab peace advocacy in proactive defense of our Muslimat Fortress is still on!” The most recent fight for the protection of hijab was the Round Table Dialogue on Muslimat Human Security Peace Agenda: Putting Hijab at the Forefront- Part 2 held last October 1, 2011, Saturday, at the Convention Hall of Amil’s Tower, Pilar Street, Zamboanga City. The RTD was convened by the joint effort of two non-stock, non-profit organizations which are in the forefront of asserting the Muslimat’s right to religious freedom, the Islamic Medical Association of the Philippines (IMAN) and Philippine Alliance of Human Rights Advocates (PAHRA-WESMIN); and attended by various government line agencies and Muslim stakeholders such as Commission on Human Rights (CHR), Department of Health (DOH), Center for Health Development (CHD), Commission on Higher Education (CHED), National Ulama Conference of the Philippines (NUCP-the one who sponsored the event), National Commission on Muslim Filipinos (NCMF), Darul Iftah Council of the Philippines, Young Moro Professionals Network (YMPN-WESMIN) and Federation of Muslim Students Association (FMSA), Markaz Ad-Dhiya Inc., Al-Furqan Islamic Cultural Center, Markaz at-Tarbiya as well as actively supported by other various Markaz, Mahad, and Madaris in the Philippines. Alhamdulillah, albeit handwritten in pen, commitment - to co-own the issue, collaborate and take action on the strict compliance and dissemination of said legal guidelines- was signed by all RTD Panel discussants.

Alhamdu lillaahi, as a by-product of the multi-stakeholders vigilant hijab advocacy in partnership with DOH, DepED, CHR, NCMF along with the all out support of our Muslim leaders (from the elders and the youth), such as the NUCP, Darul Ifta’ Council, FMSA, YMPN-WESMIN various Mehad, Marakez and Madaris--- hijab legal guidelines were collated along with the most recently signed issuances and resolution for adequate dissemination to ensure its strict compliance in order to end hijab transgression.

Among the many legal documents collated for IEC campaign are the following: NCMF Issuance Re: Legal Guidelines on Hijab by Bureau on Legal Affairs issued by Commissioner Atty. Edilwasif T.Baddiri dated September 20, 2011; Resolution No. 44, Series of 2011 approved and signed by Hon. Bai Omera D. Dianalan-Lucman and Commissioners of National Commission on Muslim Filipinos dated October 05, 2011; NBI Order Re: Memorandum Order No. 28 S. 2008, Guidelines on Photo Requirements and Picture Taking for NBI Clearance Purposes approved by Atty. Nestor M. Mantaring, Director of NBI Central Office, Manila in response to the appeal of Deputy Mufti Shaykh Abdulwakil S. Tanjilil; DOH Memo and Order namely DOH MEMO No. 2009-0107 issued by DOH Secretary Francisco Duque III, MD MSc. (Re:Strengthening the Protection of Religious Rights of Muslim workers, including but not limited to students and trainees in health facilities), which was duly reiterated by DOH MEMO No. 2011-0232dated 16 August 2011 Re: Reiterating Compliance to DOH MEMO No. 2009-0107 by Nemesio T. Gako, MD, MPH, CESO II, Asst Secretary of Health, Internal Finance and Administration Technical Cluster- lobbied by IMAN President Sherjan Kalim, MD; Strengthening the Protection of Religious Rights of Students (DepED Order No. 53 s. 2001 by Sec Raul S. Roco; and CHED MEMO dated 26 August 2008 signed by OIC Dr Nina S. Ricafort).

Laudably, the most comprehensive legal guidelines are from NCMF which condensed all the aforesaid legal documents except that of NBI Memo Order; as well as included constitutional basis: 1987 Philippine Constitution: The Bill of Rights, Article 3, Section 5 and Republic Act No. 9710, The Magna Carta of Women. In the NCMF issuance, Commsr Baddiri recommends the following: Disseminate information on the pertinent laws and government guidelines on the wearing of hijab by Muslim Filipino women thru press releases, radio and television announcements and official communication to pertinent schools and hospitals in your area of jurisdiction; Visit all heads of pertinent schools and hospital to dialogue on matters relating to the wearing of hijab by Muslim Filipino women; Conduct events to promote respect for the freedom of religious practice.

Relentlessly, hijab peace advocacy in proactive defense of our Muslimat Fortress is still on! Along this tone, NUCP Shaykh Jamal S. Munib reiterated: “We are not asking for what is not ours; we are asking for what we deserve!” After all, “there is no reason why the pious' and the righteous' rights must NOT be asserted, protected, defended, and fulfilled by the State especially so that it is not contrary to public customs, public morals, and public policy. Vigilance of Muslims and our menfolk's sense of gheerah or chivalry to protect the vulnerability of our Muslim ladies won.” Not only is CHEDRO-9 Rep Dr Rody Garcia (a Muslim revert) is with us when he urged: “Let us go out there and campaign for hijab!”; not only is the United Nations is with us when UN Sec Gen Ban Ki-Moon declared: “On this day, I urge all champions of democracy and peace throughout the world to make your voices heard. The United Nations stands with you.”; but most of all, Allah is with us in waging Islam for peace, Alhamdu lillaahi.

Let us always remember and be inspired by Allah’s verse in Surah Al-Imran, as He promised us “So do not weaken and do not grieve, and you will be superior if you are [true] believers.” Al-Qur’an Surah al-Imran 3:139.